Like many things related to wedding planning, the idea of creating a gift registry can be exciting—and a bit daunting.

That’s why we’ve put together a list of tips to help create a positive experience, both for you and those who want to give you gifts.

In case you’re familiar with the term wedding registry but fuzzy on how one works, a wedding registry is a wish list you will establish with one or more retailers so your guests, and those who want to give you a wedding gift, know what you need without trying to guess your tastes and needs.

Most registries show shoppers what has already been purchased, and some online registry services allow couples to consolidate lists from multiple sources (ranging from brick-and-mortar shops to online retailers) into one convenient list.

So, what should you know about setting up your registry? Here are your tips.

Etiquette Tips

Your registry should be devoted to items that you and your partner will use in your life together. It’s not the place to ask for clothing, jewelry, or other things specifically for one of you.

Along the same lines, don’t ask for gifts you would like to use at your wedding (like signage to set up at your venue or floral displays). It creates a vibe that you’re asking people to help pay for your wedding, and that’s not considered good etiquette.

Putting it on your invitation is an etiquette no-no. Instead, include a link to your wedding website on your invitations.

Asking for money is frowned upon, but you can set up funds for your honeymoon, saving up for a house, or other goals you share as a couple.

When and How Much?

Create your registry sooner rather than later. Some people will rely on your registry to buy for you more than once, possibly for an engagement gift and shower gift, and they would appreciate access to a registry (even if you plan to expand it) two or three weeks after you announce your big news. If that’s not practical, you should have a registry ready for guests at least four to six months before your wedding.

This is one of those times when it’s helpful to ask for a lot—or at least to give people lots of options—including gifts that sell for less than $50. It’s OK to include some options that are $100 or more.

You probably will be tempted to make your list too short. We suggest adding two or three gifts for everyone on your invitation list. And remember, you’re not going to get everything you ask for.

Check your registry from time to time. While it’s unlikely, It’s possible it will run out of gifts before all of your guests get a chance to do their shopping.

Stick with two or three stores, possibly a large department store with household goods and maybe a specialty store.

Getting Started

Before you start browsing store inventories or working with a registry guide, work with your partner to create a list of what you’ll need. Then you can look at what retailers offer and find specific products you both like.

Research registry sites. Consider the types of items you can register for, ease of use for you and the people who will be relying on your registry to shop, the availability of different price points, refund policies, and perks—some retailers offer registry assistance, loyalty program points, and even gifts.

Work on your registry with your partner. You’ll be asking for items you’ll be using and enjoying together, hopefully. You both should agree on the items you’re requesting.

Wondering what you can include? Categories can include bedding,  bathroom, kitchen and dining, cleaning, home appliances home decor, home improvement, garden and outdoors, luggage/travel, living room, smart home/electronics, recreation/entertainment, storage/organization, and special funds.

Some couples opt to ask people to make donations to charitable causes close to their hearts. This is a great option if you don’t necessarily need tangible gifts. Loved ones still get to do something special to honor your marriage, and supporting a worthy cause will add even more joy to your union. Plus, by combining gifts from multiple guests, you’re better positioned to make an impactful donation.

Some registry programs let you include a link to a charity’s donation page. Other sites, like The Good Beginning, are designed for charitable giving. Put thought into the shipping address you want to provide. Will someone be there to accept gifts? Is there room to store them?

Some online registries offer a “hold” feature, meaning you’ll receive a notification when someone buys an item on your list, but it won’t be shipped until you’re ready. This helps reduce chaos during your wedding planning and preparations, and if you realize you’ve received duplicates of a gift, you can exchange one before it’s sent to you.

Overall Advice

Look ahead. Don’t limit your list to items you need immediately. If you hope to buy a bigger bed in a couple of years, for example, or to start entertaining, register accordingly.

Register for items you’ll actually use; don’t limit yourself to high-end items like fancy china for special occasions. You don’t have to limit yourself to practical items, and there’s nothing wrong with including some splurges, but the idea of a registry is to help you and your spouse-to-be set up your household together.

Register for items you’ll actually use; don’t limit yourself to high-end items like fancy china for special occasions. You don’t have to limit yourself to practical items, and there’s nothing wrong with including some splurges, but the idea of a registry is to help you and your spouse-to-be set up your household together.